Good manners revealed a classy person…
1. Call somebody by their name and get it right. Don’t use their nickname in inappropriate situations. When you are introducing somebody to a group of people, introduce them as ‘Jessica’ and not ‘Jess.’ To introduce them by their nickname to a group of people is to belittle them and make them your sidekick instead of a person who should be respected of their own accord and merit.
2. Do thoughtful things for other people quietly as if you’re actually doing it for them I’m not trying to keep a score about how many nice things you have done for them.
3. If you say you’re gonna do something… Then do it. Do it quietly and without a big show. To find somebody these days who will actually follow through with what they say is a very rare thing. If you’re not sure you will be able to do it don’t say you will.
4. Do not correct your partner in public, even if you remember it differently. Long-term relationships are not based on facts, but based on tone, relationship, and dynamics. No one has to be right all the time.
5. Treat your partner with respect when in conversations involving others. Do not roll your eyes, explain idiosyncrasies, or make fun of their habits.
6. Never call attention to someone’s mistake. When somebody spills a glass of water during the dinner, calmly pass them a napkin, and continue the conversation as if nothing had happened. Avoid making things a big deal and further embarrassing the person.
7. Say thank you in some small special way that shows the person you actually appreciate what they did.